Monday, January 25, 2010

2 years ago

I made a calendar for T for his birthday in May and sent it to press with January 15th as the 2 year anniversary of our first date. Tyler made me this fabulous surprise candlelight dinner while I was away getting sugar free ice cream from cold stone (wouldn't suggest it--if you're going to splurge, do it right) to celebrate that blessed night two years ago...

We realized the next day that the actual date was January 17th. It fell on a Sunday this year, so we didn't worry about celebrating twice. Carpe Diem.

Thursday, January 21, 2010

Feeling Problem-Saturated?

There's this concept in therapy (mostly based in narrative therapy, where you retell and and restructure a lot of the stories you've always told to yourself about life and stuff) called externalization. I love this concept.

Instead of thinking things like "I am depressed" or "I am a mess" you think in terms of your relationship with your challenges. For example, a therapist might ask the first person, "When do you remember your relationship with Depression beginning?" or "When was a time in your life when Depression wasn't able to shake your hand?"

And messes. . .heaven knows (and my sisters) how the worst insult for me is to be called messy (or fat, for that matter :). So when the temptation comes to look at my school books sprawled all over the floor, table, desk, and couch and say to myself "Why are you so messy?" (like right now), I will say instead "Messes love your company, don't they? You are fun person to be around--lots of people want to be around you--isn't it great that you get to choose your friends?".

This way, I have a choice and am not continuing to label myself. Good stuff. . .

Thursday, January 7, 2010


I just spent 14 days with the people that make life so glorious and beautiful. Family: I think it's my favorite six letter word (Tyler is five letters). You know what I'm talking about--the warmth, the compassion, the let-it-all-hang-out moments, the food, the tears, the strength. I miss them.