Friday, September 26, 2008

Our Story


For anyone who wanted "too much information" on how Tyler and Sundy Anderson came to be:


A year ago I went to Washington DC for an internship. I loved my time there--I was a ward missionary in an inner city ward with a lot of converts from Nigeria and other parts of Africa, so I was thrilled! I had decided to take the advice of so many to not worry about getting married. While in DC I a took the graduate studies test and started applying to graduate school for a Master's degree in Family Life and Community Education. By the time I left DC for my last semester back at BYU, I had two fellow interns from Utah wanting something a little stronger than mere friendship. It was so strange to have two fellows after me, as generally I could never even get one :)

Tyler stepped into the picture on the first day of the semester back at BYU. I went to my first class with dread, as I was finally taking my last music history class (one that I had dropped three times in previous years of school). To distract myself of the awaited doom of 20th century music history (zzzzz) I started chatting outside the classroom with a girl who'd just returned from mission about how she would survive coming back to reality and college. I told her about my experiences coming back from South Africa. Little known to me, Tyler was also waiting for this class and was watching me as I chatted away. Later he told me that I had smiled at him at this time, but my first recollection of him was actually inside the class. I was standing in the front and he came in through the back doors with a big smile on his face. I smiled back and thought "Wow, I didn't know that boys still smile like that anymore."

Tyler is a planner, and from that day (7 Jan 2008) until our first date (17 Jan 2008) he figured out all the right ways to get my attention and heart. He introduced himself the next class period by asking me if my name was Cindy and if I had served in South Africa. After clarifying my name for him and asking if I knew him from somewhere, he told me no, and to not worry--he was NOT stalking me :)

He got me to sit by him by asking if I was "too good for the second row." Up until that point I sat in the front row. I moved back beside him. He later asked me how I felt about musical numbers at firesides. Thinking it was a bit strange of a question, I responded with "I think they are a good idea and really invite the Spirit." He stumbled a bit and said he'd asked the wrong question-what he really wanted to know was if I liked singing at firesides myself. Ohhhh. At that moment I realized what he was after--my level of interest and of course, my phone number. He'd never even heard me sing, but wanted to know if I would sing while he played the piano at a fireside for his home stake 30 minutes south of Provo. He exchanged numbers and the next day he called to ask if I wanted to go to a concert with him the following day.

I wanted to go. But I also had a previous engagement with all my high school girl friends. We had planned a birthday party to celebrate all of our birthdays and were swore to go. When I called one friend to tell her I wouldn't be able to make it, she said, "Don't tell me you're not coming unless you're going on a date with your future husband." I decided to tell Tyler about that conversation after the concert. He later told me that that was when he knew he wanted to marry me.

I wasn't sold completely yet, but I had a pretty strong feeling that this was going somewhere good. After singing for his fireside, he asked what my dating situation was like. I told him I normally didn't date a whole lot, but that the following weekend I had two dates with the two interns from DC. He said, "Well, I know you have three boys vying for your attention now, but can I beat the other two to the punch and take you out on Thursday?" I was thrilled. He planned a wonderful date where we got Pizza, went to a Sundance film festival showing of the play "A Raisin in the Sun", and spent 45 minutes talking about Africa when it felt like only a few moments. I was sold. We just connected.

By the time Valentine's Day rolled around we had gone out about 5 times and decided to officially start dating exclusively. On 28 March, he asked me "If I moved to St. Louis, would you come with me?" I said yes. That was the night of our first kiss, outside the Provo Temple, and that was the night the Spirit confirmed that this was the man I was going to married. I didn't think our engagement would happen so soon, but 5 days later, he took me to the Manti Temple grounds, got down on one knee with a ring and asked me to marry him.

So, it's been not quite 9 months since we met, and we've been married for almost 3 1/2 months. Crazy, I know. Tyler and I both graduated in April with music degrees--his in piano and pre-medicine and mine in family science and voice. We took social services jobs in Portland, Oregon and moved here in August. He's applying to medical school for either neurosurgery or geriatrics. I got accepted to all three of the grad programs I applied to, but declined for the time. I work at a family resource center providing food, clothing, information, language classes, and mental and health care for under served, impoverished populations (mostly immigrants). Tyler is a medical case coordinator for a non-profit clinic that treats low-income/homeless individuals with drug and alcohol addictions. He'll probably join the Navy--they'll pay for medical school if he serves as a doctor for them for the same amount of time as they pay for his schooling.

I'm happy. I just got called as a ward organist and as a Mia Maid advisor. I have a lot of dreams tucked in my back pockets as Tyler and I start our life together. There have been some hard moments mixed into the wonderland of marriage, but we are a good match for each other. Ty is extremely smart, patient, kind, and helpful. He's more on the reserved side, but carries his own in conversations with anyone. He cooks more than I do. He grew up on a cattle farm and is the oldest of six kids--the youngest is 6. This is his first time being away from his family (most of which live within a 5 mile radius of each other, including both sets of grandparents) except for his mission to Chile. He reads like a maniac, finishing about a book a week--mostly biographies and theory books.

Our dream is to do a lot of humanitarian aid, especially in Malawi, once he's established as a doctor. We'll see where the road takes us.

Friday, September 19, 2008

Oregon Sunshine


I recognize that I've been pretty vague about what I'm doing up in Oregon, so here's the low-down: Tyler didn't get into medical school for this year, so we took jobs in the Portland, OR area and moved on the 9th of August. It's been wonderful and challenging to be up here. We stayed with my aunt and uncle until we finally got approved for an apartment (we didn't have enough rental history), but have finally moved into a wonderful ward in the Hillsboro OR stake. I've been called as a ward organist and to serve on the enrichment committee. Tyler is the ward choir pianist and was informed that he would be called to scouting very shortly. We've had the missionaries over for dinner and have been praying for missionary opportunities--I've had several really great ones so far. I went to a retreat for my service as an AmeriCorps member at the beginning of this month. 60 other members were there and I quickly discovered that I was a true minority because I was married and not living with a boy or girlfriend. They were all wonderful people with big hearts who want to serve the low-income population of the state. Probably 20% of them were vegetarians and everyone carried their coffee cups around like an extra appendage. The blessings of living the gospel are so concrete and tangible in my life when juxtaposed with the common American lifestyle I see my peers and coworkers living--it's just different. We continue on. Tyler works for a non-profit clinic in downtown Portland that treats low-income drug and alcohol addicts as a medical case worker. He works with a man whose liver is so hardened and swollen that it's just a matter of time before he dies. But he doesn't want to be addicted to alcohol when that happens, so he's fighting to the end. I am doing outreach and volunteer recruitment at a family resource center, focusing on getting families health care and other needs met like food, clothing, dental care, and social services. I wish I spoke Spanish. I also wish I was allowed to share the gospel. A lady came in to the center and asked if we had any books. I asked her what she liked to read, She said, "Anything good." If there is anything virtuous, lovely , or of good report or praiseworthy.... Since I'm getting federal funding I cannot proselytize. Maybe I'll get a member to donate Book of Mormons to the center. The sun has been shining the entire time we've been up here...until yesterday. A cold front moved in and that's probably the end of the sunshine until April. I guess that's the price we pay for our green forest. There's a lush park down the road called "Noble Woods." There's a stream that runs through the whole thing with bridges to cross. We run there in the mornings and meet creatures like bunnies and squirrels in the quiet misty morning. Tyler (T, as I call him) painted a wall a lovely butterscotch orange to match my African decor. It's starting to feel like home.

Wednesday, September 10, 2008

Needs

Everyone has needs. I believe that everyone has more than one. And the people that seem like they have it all together do not have it all together. They have needs, too--a lot of them, probably. I work at a center to meet people's needs--families, children, drop-out teenagers, the disabled, the mentally ill, the immigrants, the homeless, the ethnic, the Caucasian, the bitter, the hopeful.

Five ladies I work with got into a fight about frozen turkeys and where to put the beans on the shelf. It wasn't about turkeys or beans. It was about insecurities and hidden hurts. Bishop David H. Burton said "Oft times those we think deserve our love the least need it the most." Doing that fills our own need 'buckets'.

Monday, May 12, 2008

I'm getting married

Does the world stop turning when someone gets married? Before getting engaged, I'm pretty sure I'd have answered that question with a quick head nod in the affirmative. I've seen probably more than my fair share of Cinderella stories with the magic of love constantly brewing. Now that 40 days of engagement have passed, I must admit that life goes on.

It just does. Marriage is the door that opens up a whole new world of heart breaks, joys, challenges and thought processes. Marriage means life is never about just you again. Marriage is the promise you'll keep doing what you've always been doing, only now your arms are linked with another soul who's trying to do what you're doing--just trying to be a little bit better, wiser, happier, and stronger with each new day and experience.

I'm glad I'm getting married. I like that life goes on.

Monday, March 24, 2008

My Home Sweet Home of Virginia

Blessed loves,Please forgive this short email. I am utterly exhausted and it'salmost midnight. I planned a weekend trip to my blessed hometown ofFt. Monroe, plus Williamsburg, Jamestown, Yorktown, Monticello andCharlottesville for this weekend. We just got home. I was theplanner and the navigator for the entire 36 hour trip--my head isstill spinning. I ended up sleeping on a little chair at our hotelroom last night. I think everyone had fun (there were seven of us,all in a rented minivan) but I was just stressed trying to geteverywhere in the limited amount of time we had for each allottedactivity. Imagine a school teacher organizing and carrying out afield trip--that's what it was like.Anyway, I just can't tell you what it did for my soul to be at Ft.Monroe, a place full of so many memories and milestones. I walkedalong the sea wall, with the sun gleaming across the Chesapeake Bay,the wind spraying sea salted water and my hair everywhere. Tearswelled up and stained my happy, grateful cheeks. So much of who I amcomes from living on the blessed little peninsula of "Old PointComfort," an Army base that dates back to 1802. Besides 22 TidballRoad (the tiny house across from the marina where my family lived),the gazebo (where my dad would play concerts with the US ContinentalArmy Band while we sat on the green grass and picnicked), and therocky beaches (where I used to sing to the ocean at the top of mylungs and no one could ever hear me), the Fort is full of Civil Warand Army history. I found out on this trip that Harriet Tubman workedat the hospital for several months during the Civil War and that thefirst militia of black soldiers was organized for fighting there. Isthis one reason why I have so much love in my heart for blackAmericans? Being in Africa as a missionary made my love grow likefire. I don't know what my future holds--maybe I'll adopt Africanbabies some day--but it does not feel like coincidence that I haveopened my heart and mind to "black soul."I keep thinking about home....My heavenly home, my home in Orem, myhome in South Africa, my home at the Barlow Center, my home at Ft.Monroe. "Home I'll be" whenever I feel that deep sense of belongingand comfort. Words from a song I sang with the BYU choirs have beenfloating through my head this whole weekend, and I guess I share itwith you as my testimony of the role our Savior plays in getting usback to our Heavenly Father's many mansions..." 'Rise up, follow me,come away' is the call, 'with a love in your heart as the only song.There is no greater beauty than where you belong. Rise up. Followme. I will lead you home.'" He leads me. I love Him. Love, Sundy

Boston!

Hi all,I am running to work right now, but I needed to let the whole worldknow that I went to a blessed, blessed single adult educationconference in Boston and Cambridge this weekend! I ended up travelingfor 18+ hours total, but it was well worth the trip. Elder Jeffrey R.Holland "stayed with us." He didn't just speak to us--he was a partof us. For two days, I sat at the feet of a modern witness for JesusChrist. I felt so strongly of the compassion and mercy and kindnessthe Lord must have for me just by being with Elder Holland. When itwas my turn to meet him, he grabbed my hand and said, "Well, aren'tyou a cheerful soul!" I nodded and smiled even wider, not knowingwhat else to do. I told him how the last chapter of his book "HoweverLong and Hard the Road" saved me from coming home from a mission. Hissmile and warmth were so real, so personal.I drank freely of living waters this weekend. The Spirit boiled upand spilled over many, many times. I wish each one of you could havebeen there with me. It was a time to rejoice. Of all the doctrinestaught, I will hold on to these truths for the rest of my days:Being God's child in Jesus Christ's church TRUMPS every othercircumstance in my life.Faith is a gift bestowed upon us because of our personal righteousness.When there are things that I don't know or don't understand, I mustCLING more desperately to the things I DO know and DO understand.One who doesn't bear WITNESS is not a part of the kingdom of heaven.Keep crossing the Sweetwater as long as the Sweetwater crops up.The church of the Lamb is to prepare the world to meet the Lamb.The things we need are usually the things we fear."Any sister missionary is worth four elders. Any where across theworld." (that's a direct quote from the sister's Q&A session :)We meet the Savior in the flames of adversity. Don't resist sufferingtoo much. More than anything in this world, God loves a broken heart,particularly when it leads to a contrite spirit. A true disciple ismarked by that which she suffers."Embrace the breaking of your heart as central to your salvation."Waiting is not an indication of unworthiness, but the Lord's trust andfaith in us that WE will be faithful.Even apostles feel unworthy of their calling.Mercy always overpowers justice. ALWAYS.The last words he spoke to us were in the form of an Apostlicblessing, "as if I am laying my hands on your head individually." Hepromised us answers to our prayers and the desires of our hearts to begranted. He told us that we MUST know that we are loved, adored,cherished, revered, and needed. He promised that those who are ill,who may become ill, or are currently suffering that they will havetheir personal prayers answered and that hope will spring in useternally.He commanded us, in the most power I have personally been in thepresence of, to begin to magnify the greatest gift God has ever givenHis church and yet we don't take enough advantage of--the Gift of theHoly Ghost.The fall leaves were deep scarlet and pumpkin orange. Boston streetsare chaos the its winds are CHILLY right now. But the Charles riverglistened in autumn sun, and I was so happy to be in New England.Love you forever! Sundy

I am Christian

Hello my "most important audience" (according to Douglas L. Callisterfrom Conference yesterday, talking about bearing testimony to friendsand families, the most important of audiences).Before I tell you of some of the Lord's miracles with His children,might I share some of the personal revelation I received from thisconference? What will I do differently because of my experience withapostles and prophets speaking for the Lord? Well, here are some ofmy insights:Pay my tithing with more faith in the promised blessings.Give up sins of pride to receive meekness and humility.Put others' needs first.Be more honest, especially in the little things.Be more generous—forget about what I've given others.Be more grateful—never forget what others are constantly doing for me.Spend more time with the Lord- study and reflect on His life.Use "Preach My Gospel" when studying the scriptures.Think as a missionary thinks.Come to know my ancestors.Compile a Family Home Evening lesson plan book for my future family.Continue working on being organized (you'd be proud of my clean room,Lacey Jean).Prepare for Sacrament Meeting as the most holy meeting of the week.Purify my inner most heart and secret desires.Give, give, and give some more.Ask more specific questions in prayer, be more fervent in scripturestudy and be patient in listening to the Lord's answers.Plead with the Lord daily that I will never lose my testimony.Love, instead of judge, the people whom are closest to me.Granted, this list is quite long and cannot be accomplished overnight,but I am grateful that when I ask the Lord what I can do to becomebetter, He answers me.On a sad note, my sweet angel of a dog died this week. She was almost17 years old and nearly totally blind and deaf. Her little body wasfound by my dad, still warm on her bed.I grieved for MY loss that night more than HER departure from thismortal world. Sobs escaped and just coming for my little four-leggedfriend who always listened, loved, and sensed my heart. Muffin is nowburied in our backyard under 4 rocks shaped like a paw print. I'vebeen praying that Heavenly Father will allow her spirit will remainaround our house. It was, after all, her house before it was ours.I made my way to Sister Adams' house on Tuesday. She's the sweetinvestigator with a walker who got out of the hospital a week agofrom heart problems. I had never made a go of the DC bus system, andshe lived far away from my office. When I finally got to herneighborhood, I realized that I wasn't going to be extremely safe toleave after dark. But there I was, right in inner city DC, ready tosing my testimony for Sister Adams. The whole experience was so muchlike my mission. The only thing missing was a name tag and acompanion. I helped Sister Adams clean up the living area, talked toher about her children, and sang of forever families and JesusChrist's eternal love. Singing, staring straight into her eyes, theSpirit locked and a force stronger than anything visible passedbetween us. The phone kept ringing, interrupting, but as soon as shewas off, the Spirit came right back. She asked me to sing for anon-denominational women's group on Thursday morning. I accepted theinvite on condition that my boss would allow me to come to work late.Sis. Adams prayed for me with great faith that I would make it thereon Thursday, and that I would make it home safely….I needed both prayers. Walking to the bus stop and waiting there fora half an hour in the dark was not comforting, especially as peopledrove by starring curiously at the little white girl in a businesssuit. But Sister Adam's prayers, and mine, were heard. My bosskindly consented for me to attend the Women Aglow Society. Iattempted to take the bus again. Two hours after boarding, I wasSTILL riding. I met an "Ex-Mormon" who I talked to for quite a whileand had to convince an older gentleman that I probably would not beinterested in dating an older man (i.e., him).The meeting turned out to be a gathering of over 50 devoted Christianswho were already there praising and singing when I arrived. SisterAdams called the leaders over and told them I wanted to sing. Theyraised their eyebrows inquisitively. I looked towards Sister Adams,who looked right back at me with a "don't you want to?" look. "Yes,"I replied. "I am here to sing." Feeling uncomfortable, I was usheredto a table. I would sing after the speaker and the luncheon.The speaker was an Egyptian woman, born into an Orthodox Christianfamily and later switched back and forth between Islam andChristianity. Now she is on a mission to save the Muslim people andconvert them to Jesus Christ. Towards the beginning of her speech,the Spirit touched me several times as I saw the sincerity of herbelief in Christ. Later, she began to mock principles of Islam andtold her audience that if a Mormon should every come their way, shoothem away because they did not worship the true Jesus. The Spiritleft. I looked around the room and realized that the Lord hadanswered my prayer for missionary moments. When it was finally myturn to sing, I went to the front and from deep inside myself began todeclare my testimony in song…"Jesus love is like a lighthouse, when the storms of life appear; likea beacon in the distance, always steady, always clear. And those whowill go where the lighthouse glows will feel of His Spirit and findrepose…" The Spirit moved me and the group as well.I finished, took a deep breath, and said something like the following: Thank you for allowing me to be here today and praise with you. Ialso love and worship Jesus Christ. I have worshipped Him my wholelife. I served Him for a year and a half in Africa, preaching of Him.The "Mormons" are a nickname for The Church of Jesus Christ ofLatter-day Saints. I am a member of that church. Part of theproblems we face as Christians can be miscommunication of ourbeliefs. I thank you for the Spirit I have felt here, and hope thatmy witness has also testified of Christ…"It wasn't exactly like that, but you get the idea. As I sat down, Ilooked at the speaker. Her face was frozen. I don't think she wasexpecting a Mormon to show up to a nondenominational Christianmeeting. I hope now she and all the other 50+ individuals know, likeElder Holland so boldly announced on Saturday, that we are Christians.On my way home, a boy smiled at me by the metro. I was reading theBook of Mormon, the blue one with the pictures. I smiled back andasked if he had ever seen this book….We had a wonderful mini firstlesson on the metro. I explained that this book made me happier thanany other book, along with the Bible, that it was given to us as agift, in countries all over the world, in over 150 languages, fromHeavenly Father. The boy really listened. Cedric Shaw is 19, works atMcDonalds, lives with his father and three brothers, is trying tofinish up his high school credits, and loves poetry, writing, andrapping. By the end of it all, we decided it would be good for him toget to know some of my friends at the Barlow Center. I saw a light inhim. I hope it grows. He's going to take me and several others intothe depths of Anacostia, a place that I would never dare to go bymyself.Sister Adams called me on Saturday morning to warn me that she knowshow it is to feel like God is with me, but that I need to be safe. Ifyou're thinking the same thing, please realize that I learned fromfortunately harmless experience this week that I really shouldn't begoing out to do missionary work by myself anymore. I will take acompanion ☺Every day my desire deepens to serve a mission here on earth. TheSpirit articulated that mission to me in Conference. He whispered,"Come home, Sundy Lynn. Bring as many with you as you can." That'swhat I intend to do. Love you always, Sundy